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In Living Color: A Guide to Interracial Dating

Imagine a common sight in a shopping mall, at the park, even in a doctor’s office-a man holding hands with his girlfriend. Yet, when those same two people are from different races, say, the man is African-American and the woman Asian, suddenly things change. Notice how people react? They get a second look, and the rude ones might even stare, point, or whisper. Yes, society does seem to have become more open to the concept of interracial dating, yet there still exists a wall of silent antagonism against couples who choose to date someone from another race. And in some cases, this wall is not so silent.

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The ones who usually point and stare are the strangers, nameless people you come across in the street; and that’s actually the easy part. Most of the judging and the ridicule will come from the immediate families of the couple, especially if they are old school and not used to this kind of thing. Sometimes, friends also don’t understand and are quick to give their verdict on the matter. Clearly, interracial dating is more challenging than dating someone of your own color. Things can get unpleasant with pressure from all sides, and this might make the two of you think about stopping the dating process. And if you never really dated anyone outside of your race and are just beginning to do it, you might be more sensitive to all the looks and comments.

Remember that people’s opinions are just that-opinions. Whatever they think or say about you dating someone from a different race won’t change how you feel about that person. All this might seem like such a hassle, but it doesn’t mean that interracial dating is a bad idea and shouldn’t even be bothered with. In fact, it is a great way to broaden your horizons and meet people from different cultures, and who knows, maybe even get to develop a loving, lasting relationship? The important thing is to respect each other’s language, customs, and traditions, not letting anything get in the way of your seeing each other. Have fun; maybe even teach him a bit of Spanish or write her a poem in Filipino. What matters is that you both get to agree on the big issues, like religion-but that is something the two of you will have to talk about once you decide to take your relationship to the next level.

The old cliché about opposites attracting applies really well to interracial dating. Success stories of people finding love with someone so different from them abound. Yes, it is difficult not to get affected by other people’s judgment, but there are ways around this. If you are deeply attracted to each other, don’t sweat the small stuff-ignore the stares and the whispers. Talk to your family and let them know that you need them to understand and respect your wishes. Remember that ultimately, it is your life and it is your decision that counts.


Dating – The Latest and Greatest Way is Online Dating

The number of dating sites is growing astronomically and along with it, the users of these sites. The joining up to these membership sites has been made easy and the opportunity to meet people from different parts of the world, possible. What were the chances that online dating would replace the old fashioned method? It has been revealed that hundreds of couples have gone on to consummate happy and lasting marriages and relationships, as a result of meeting on-line, so it has had its share of knockers but many successes.

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Most membership sites have a joining fee and a simple process to complete. Once you have had your application accepted you can move to your profile page and put in as much or as little information as you feel comfortable with revealing about yourself. Remember to keep it as close to who you truly are and look. Some couples when they arrange their first offline meeting have been extremely disappointed at having been deceived by what they had been told and seen and there has never been a repeat date!

For those who find meeting and going on their first date with a perfect stranger stressful, online dating could be just the ticket. It gives you a chance to get to know the person before actually having your first date. You are not being persuaded by other instincts and this relaxes you and enables you to be yourself. If however you discover that you aren’t compatible before going on your first date then no harm has been done and no feelings have been hurt and you can move on to get to know another member.

Along with the dating sites, sister type sites have sprung up providing reviews, tips and guidance to those looking for information on how to go about meeting people, both online and offline.

Just imagine waking up and going online to find that someone has viewed your profile overnight and sent you a smile, which is an indicator they would like to chat with you. You could be sitting there un-showered and still in your night attire, but carrying out a conversation with someone who could become a potential husband or wife!

You could be communicating with someone from Japan or Rome or London which if you hit it off gives you the opportunity of overseas travel and a holiday. Who knows, all going well, maybe even a honeymoon in an exotic destination.

Whatever the outcome while getting to know a person use common sense, listen to your gut instincts and if something doesn’t feel comfortable, politely dismiss yourself of the person and block them from being able to communicate with you again. The dating site will also give you guidance on what to do and look out for, so read what you can on the site.

To your future happiness