Imagine a common sight in a shopping mall, at the park, even in a doctor’s office-a man holding hands with his girlfriend. Yet, when those same two people are from different races, say, the man is African-American and the woman Asian, suddenly things change. Notice how people react? They get a second look, and the rude ones might even stare, point, or whisper. Yes, society does seem to have become more open to the concept of interracial dating, yet there still exists a wall of silent antagonism against couples who choose to date someone from another race. And in some cases, this wall is not so silent.
The ones who usually point and stare are the strangers, nameless people you come across in the street; and that’s actually the easy part. Most of the judging and the ridicule will come from the immediate families of the couple, especially if they are old school and not used to this kind of thing. Sometimes, friends also don’t understand and are quick to give their verdict on the matter. Clearly, interracial dating is more challenging than dating someone of your own color. Things can get unpleasant with pressure from all sides, and this might make the two of you think about stopping the dating process. And if you never really dated anyone outside of your race and are just beginning to do it, you might be more sensitive to all the looks and comments.
Remember that people’s opinions are just that-opinions. Whatever they think or say about you dating someone from a different race won’t change how you feel about that person. All this might seem like such a hassle, but it doesn’t mean that interracial dating is a bad idea and shouldn’t even be bothered with. In fact, it is a great way to broaden your horizons and meet people from different cultures, and who knows, maybe even get to develop a loving, lasting relationship? The important thing is to respect each other’s language, customs, and traditions, not letting anything get in the way of your seeing each other. Have fun; maybe even teach him a bit of Spanish or write her a poem in Filipino. What matters is that you both get to agree on the big issues, like religion-but that is something the two of you will have to talk about once you decide to take your relationship to the next level.
The old cliché about opposites attracting applies really well to interracial dating. Success stories of people finding love with someone so different from them abound. Yes, it is difficult not to get affected by other people’s judgment, but there are ways around this. If you are deeply attracted to each other, don’t sweat the small stuff-ignore the stares and the whispers. Talk to your family and let them know that you need them to understand and respect your wishes. Remember that ultimately, it is your life and it is your decision that counts.